How Being Grateful Brings More of What You Want – Therapy Threads


How Being Grateful Brings More of What You Want

It’s Monday morning. The alarm jerks you out of sleep, an annoying reminder of how you have to go back to a job you hate. The cat is clawing at the sheets – you forgot to feed her. A jackhammer is going so loud outside you can hardly hear your thoughts. You look at the clock – you’re running late. Does this sound like a familiar scenario? Welcome to what we call life. How you handle the situation is entirely up to you.

I remember when I was caught in the negativity loop. Specifically, when I lived in New York City for just shy of two years, I had to move back home due to lack of funds. I found a mediocre job (but it was a job!) and moved back in with my mom. My dreams of being a journalist in the big city were gone. Facing a sterile cubicle with florescent lighting, I thought ‘why am I here [and not there]?’ There was no grateful bone in my body.

I was so deep in my own self-pity I had to have friends yank me out by kindly saying things like ‘well at least you have a job!’ I caught myself in the act. I realized how far into the ‘poor me’ rabbit hole I had gone. 

I soon turned my thinking around. ‘Well, this is my chance to try out California’ I said to myself. I wasn’t paying rent and I was getting a stable income. This gave me the resources to start applying to hundreds of jobs in California. Like a frenzied writer on a deadline, I kept applying and booked a trip to San Francisco, got a job and moved there two weeks later. To this day, I still live in California.

Turns out, me being forced to leave New York was the best thing that ever could have happened to me. [I’m no longer at said job, but it got me to California.]

Perhaps if I never snapped out of my negativity loop, I wouldn’t be here. Perhaps if I wasn’t grateful for the job in between New York and California, I wouldn’t have gotten that job that got me to San Francisco in the first place.

“Gratitude is a powerful process for shifting your energy and bringing more of what you want into your life. Be grateful for what you already have and you will attract more good things.” Rhonda Byrne

According to The Secret and the Law of Attraction, being grateful is the key to abundance. Why? Because what you focus on (what you put your energy into), you get back. If you are constantly thinking about what you don’t want, you will still get that very thing, because you’re still putting your energy there. In contrast, being grateful means you are putting your energy into things you do love. For example, if you are short on money, you can still be grateful for the money you do have. Wake up everyday saying, ‘thank you for this beautiful and nourishing breakfast I’m about to have. Thank you for the money to fill my tank so I can go work. Thank you for the birds that sing and the sun that shines…’

The more you do this, the more you’ll realize how much beauty is right in front of you, and the more of that beauty will come to you, because you’re focusing on it. [What you focus on expands].

Need proof? On Oprah in 1997, Jim Carey shared his personal story of how the Law of Attraction worked in his life. In the early 1990s, when the comedian was not yet famous and was literally broke with nothing, he chose to be grateful and focus on what he wanted, rather than feeling sorry for himself. He wrote himself a check for $10 million and gave himself three years to have it manifest. Just before Thanksgiving in 1995, he found out he’d make $10 million for Dumb and Dumber. And the rest is history.

“If you can see it and believe it, it is a lot easier to achieve it.” – Oprah

It’s OK to feel sad, and to feel angry at your current life circumstances (this is also very human), but if you want to change your situation, you first have to change your mindset. This month in honor of Thanksgiving, we’re doing a month-long gratitude challenge: Every day, write one thing you are grateful for, and after the month, you’ll have 30 things to focus on what you want more of. For Self Care Club members, recruit a friend to join the private Facebook group to participate in the challenge and you’ll be entered to win a prize that includes a book on gratitude.

Let’s focus on what we have now, and what we want, shall we? And a favorite quote from my teacher: ‘We live in the land of abundance.’ Remember that.

Thank you in advance for reading, commenting and sharing with love, compassion and kindness. You help make our cozy corner of the world wide web an awesome place!

Sending love, healing, and self care,

The Self Care Club Team

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