My Life Phase: Exercise for Personal Growth – Therapy Threads


My Life Phase: Exercise for Personal Growth

A few months ago, I was feeling extremely overwhelmed with all I had going on. Anyone relate!? Not in a complaining way, because I feel so very grateful and blessed to have all the people, things and opportunities I have in my life. This was more from a place of I was taking on too much and was feeling spread too thin. I was having trouble figuring out how to structure my days and what to cut out. Everything felt like a priority! To break it down, here’s all I had on my plate:

  • My business, Therapy Threads
  • Our growing community, Self Care Club
  • Employees for both businesses
  • My new spiritual blog, Dani Ashley
  • Fire Stables, and my three beautiful horses that live there
  • Our brand new trail riding program (which is officially open to the public in June!)
  • My relationship with my amazing fiance (relationships are rewarding, but take work!)
  • Still transitioning into this blended family and my new “stepmom” role
  • …not to mention dealing with ongoing blended family dynamics and conflict
  • Spending quality time with my two stepkiddos every weekend
  • Spending time with family and friends
  • Taking care of our beloved pets: (my dog bella, our 2 cats, 3 snakes, and 2 sugar bears)
  • A LOT of Self-Care / appointments: yoga, pilates, meditation, horseback riding, painting, individual therapy, couples therapy, occasional family therapy, flowtrition / functional medicine, acupuncture, and relaxation neurofeedback
  • Building our dream home
  • Planning our wedding (in France!) and honeymoon
  • And the various traveling we are so blessed to be able to do…

Yeah… it was and still is a lot, and I was trying to do it all! I am not Superwoman, so naturally I was getting stressed and overwhelmed. I started working with a life coach (not that I needed anything else going on in my life), and she gave me an exercise that really helped me prioritize and slow down. She told me to identify and name my life’s phase / chapter at that time, the time frame (how long it would last), and pick my top 5-6 priorities I hope to focus the most on during that time. Then compare those priorities with my current schedule and how I spend my time.

I really enjoyed this exercise, and it allowed me to take a step back and go with the flow of life and its many transitions. I called my chapter “Pre-Fire” because I will become Mrs. Fire after our wedding. This chapter lasts from now until after our honeymoon. And naturally, it revolves around self-work and self-care, as well as relationships in order to be the best wife and stepmom I can be. And here are my top priorities during this unique, short, beautiful time in my life.

Now we would love to hear from you.  

Are you feeling stressed or overwhelmed? Try creating your own life chapter. What will you call it? What’s the timeframe? What are your priorities and how do they compare with your current schedule? What boundaries do you need to set? Let us know in the comments below.

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Sending love, healing, and self care,


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