I used to be really into new years resolutions. But, I’ve typically found that my “resolutions” convert into some form of a shame inducing, “should” list that turns into a chore.
- Lose 10 pounds
- Save $5,000
- Eat healthier
- Read more books
- bla bla bla
No fun! Want to try something different in the new year? If you’re anything like me, you love a good plan; especially when it comes to sticking to my goals or “resolutions”.
What I find most difficult though, is that I have such big goals for my personal, professional, and spiritual growth that I tend to get overwhelmed.
That’s where I find it best to keep things as simple as possible.
Instead of focusing on a yearly goal, focus on one new intention each week, or even month. (Remember to meet yourself where you are at. If you’re having a harder time, do a daily, or weekly goal. If you’re doing well, try setting a monthly goal).
- Choose one meditation to practice and master
- Or one new book to read
- Choose a self care goal to stick to, like going to the gym every day, or increasing your water intake
- Choose a new daily habit or ritual
- Even just pick a word to embody in all you say and do, such as Authentic or Compassionate
For daily goals, I’ve found that it’s better to have no more than 3 things on your to do list, or you may not be clear on your priorities. Anything more than 3 is just frosting on the cake. This simplicity helps me to stay focused and clear on my self care journey and personal growth. When I set these weekly or monthly intentions, with self care as a priority, my life feels much more balanced.
Keep in mind, that we can’t always start with our actions as a jumping off point for change. We may have to look at the thoughts and feelings that are driving our very actions (or inaction) in the first place.
Are you feeling apathetic? Do you already feel defeated? Or think that it won’t matter anyway?
This will HUGELY impact your success with your goals and resolutions. I’d invite you to take a look at your patterns (thoughts, feelings, behaviors, results) WITH curiosity, and WITHOUT judgement.
If you want long term change, find some love & compassion for yourself and truly understand your thinking/feeling/action pattern before you make any changes.
Now I would love to hear from you.
What do you think about new years resolutions? Do they turn into a chore or do you find yourself achieving them? If so, how do you stay committed and focused? What would help you stick to your resolutions? Or what gets in your way? How can you find some compassion for yourself when you get stuck? Let me know in the comments below.
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Sending love and healing in the New Year,