When we don’t reach out to others, we allow them AND ourselves to sit alone in our shame, and by doing so we feed shame two of the ingredients it needs to survive: silence and secrecy. Using shame to fight shame doesn’t work. And using shame as a tool to try and change others doesn’t work, either. We can, however, all benefit from shared empathy. Empathy is what helps extinguish shame in its tracks.
One of my favorite ways to practice self-care is through nutrition. When I eat well, I feel well, and when I feel well, I do well. It creates an ongoing, positive cycle, that has a domino effect onto many areas of my life. I get a lot out of healthy eating habits, and summer’s seasonal offerings sweeten the appeal for many of us to follow suit.
If I go to a therapist, does that mean I’m crazy, weak or a failure? What will others think? What if I’m seen coming out of that kind of office? Such concerns are quite natural given our socio-cultural conditioning. Unfortunately, as a result, many people decide not to pursue therapy despite experiencing significant […]
I was driving in a tiny little car that was not mine, in the dark, without my glasses or a working cell phone. I was having an off night, to say the least. And of course, that brought on a TON of anxiety. However, little did I know, that just a few moments later, will be the […]
“May we not succumb to thoughts of violence and revenge today, but rather to thoughts of mercy and compassion. We are to love our enemies that they might be returned to their right minds.” -Marianne Williamson In times like these… with horrific attacks occurring across the world, killing innocent, beautiful lives, it is easy to […]
“Have you ever read something that killed you inside? Like a text message or someone’s status. Everything was going fine until you accidentally came across something you didn’t want to read. Or found out something you were better off not knowing. It’s almost as if it were posted just to purposely hurt you.” -Unknown We […]
“Our relationships are like mirrors. We attract what we need to work on ourselves.” -Law of Reflection [I’ve been a little quiet on here lately, and I want to apologize for my inconsistency; which is one of the most important parts of blogging! This is still new to me, and not to come out with […]
“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.” -Helen Keller Have you ever said to yourself, “I’m just sooo overwhelmed!?” There is so much going on in the world today. You’re consuming dozens of things on a […]