When we don’t reach out to others, we allow them AND ourselves to sit alone in our shame, and by doing so we feed shame two of the ingredients it needs to survive: silence and secrecy. Using shame to fight shame doesn’t work. And using shame as a tool to try and change others doesn’t work, either. We can, however, all benefit from shared empathy. Empathy is what helps extinguish shame in its tracks.
1.44 Billion. No, that’s not the amount Star Wars raked in opening weekend, or the number of cheeseburgers served by McDonalds in a day. That’s the number of Active Facebook users currently. Along with 300 Million Instagram users, and 284 Million Twitter users. (thanks, Google). We’re engulfed with it. At first, […]
“Have you ever read something that killed you inside? Like a text message or someone’s status. Everything was going fine until you accidentally came across something you didn’t want to read. Or found out something you were better off not knowing. It’s almost as if it were posted just to purposely hurt you.” -Unknown We […]
I awoke last night from a abominable nightmare, anxious, horrified and severely disturbed. I felt the knots twisting in my belly; the tightness in my chest. My pillow drenched in sweat. The urge to stay frozen to my bed and take a sleeping pill crept in. It was in that moment I thought, what […]