“Whisper Words of Wisdom, Let It Be”

I was driving in a tiny little car that was not mine, in the dark, without my glasses or a working cell phone. I was having an off night, to say the least. And of course, that brought on a TON of anxiety. 

However, little did I know, that just a few moments later, will be the first time I ever knew the true meaning of “letting go”…

After a drive full of dread, fear, and negative undertones almost to the place of panic; I finally, paused, took a deep breath, and said to myself:

“Dani – this, right here right now, is where you’re meant to be. Don’t resist it. Stop fighting this moment. Stop trying to change it. Quit beating yourself up. Just Let It Be. Let it go. All of your training and life experiences has led you here, to this moment. Use your coping skills. You’re okay. You’ve got this.”

And so I took some deep breaths, tuned into my present moment, and ultimately the universe, and truly Let Go of all my worries, fears, anxieties, and resistance. I also tuned into my compassion and love for myself, and ultimately soothed myself.

It was then, in that moment, in my friends tiny little blue Honda, that I finally knew and felt what I’d been preaching to my clients.

I felt truly FREE. I postulate that most everyone in this lifetime has (hopefully) heard of The Beatles. I, for one, have much reverence for them and their music.

One of their most popular and famous songs “Let It Be” is my first lyrical breakdown attempt to put into terms of wellness and spirituality.

A fresh dose of novel perspective (even on something that is classic) can be inspiring and motivational; which seemed apt after my own “Let It Be” moment, and for the start of the new year just around the corner.

…Let It Be(gin).

“When I find myself in times of trouble
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
And in my hour of darkness
She is standing right in front of me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
Let it be, let it be
Let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

 
Everyone experiences stress. Even if you are healthy and have money, you still have stress in your life. In the pursuit of living a meaningful life full of passion and fulfillment, this journey is filled with fear, uncertainty, challenge, and constant change. Stressors can look like: work, family issues, anxiety, mental illness, health issues, past or current trauma, loss, grief, relationship issues, financial issues, phase of life transitions, having a baby, etc.

Even though some of these transitions and changes are positive or necessary, they are still uncomfortable and downright scary. Stress manifests differently in everyone and it changes as you and your life evolves and shifts. We all have ups and downs, “in my hour of darkness” is when I am surviving instead of living. We all do what we can to survive (cope) with a goal of ultimately living; to be happy or content. Everyone goes through “times of trouble” and tribulations; this is a completely normal, healthy, and inevitable part of life.

One of the best and most powerful way to overcome these battles is to turn to a higher power outside of ourselves and our loved ones. Whether it be “Mother Mary,” Jesus, Buddha, God, or whatever your faith and spirituality holds; having that solid foundation to live out of is necessary to live and thrive, in my perspective. The experience of having a relationship with a power greater than yourself which provides acceptance, guidance, solace, serenity, grace, love, healing, compassion, and “speaking [or whispering] words of wisdom” is highly powerful and significant.

Let it be, to me, stands for putting our lives and overall struggles into the hands of a higher power when we are weak and failing to cope on our own; it is accepting that we are imperfect and need help and guidance: and believing that that is OK and human.

Letting go of the stress, anxiety, fear, and control and accepting that what will be will be; everything happens for a reason; and finding healthy ways to cope with life’s inescapable twists and turns–trials and tribulations–through self care, mindfulness, and spirituality (faith). Acknowledging and accepting all of this is an important aspect in letting go; or in other words, Letting it be.

And when the broken hearted people
Living in the world agree
There will be an answer, let it be
For though they may be parted
There is still a chance that they will see
There will be an answer, let it be
Let it be, let it be
Let it be, let it be
Yeah there will be an answer, let it be
Let it be, let it be
Let it be, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

When we are betrayed, hurt, rejected, or abandoned by those we love and care for, we are wounded. We become wounded emotionally, mentally, and sometimes spiritually. This in turn affects our physical health and all other areas of our life. Therefore, “broken hearted people” end up putting up a wall or a mask as a defense mechanism, to protect and prevent that violation, wound, pain/hurt from occurring again. It can most definitely take a toll on your faith and spirituality, but restoring that faith and reconnecting to our “foundation” and spirituality is the best way to nourish our souls and heal our wounds.

Another inevitable part of our journey is loss. Loss includes not only death, but loss of relationships, loss of parts of ourselves, loss of a job, loss of a home, sentimental possessions, loss of a childhood, loss of safety after trauma, loss through natural disasters, etc. (The list can go on and on of things that we eventually part ways from).

“For though they may be parted,” we can still find hope to pick ourselves up and become stronger, learn, and grow from our experiences, losses, and trauma. We must let it REFINE us and not DEFINE us. In the end, we can’t always control what happens to us or others, a lot of things are out of our hands. However, we can control ourselves. Forgiveness and acceptance may be difficult at times, but if we can put our faith and hope back into our higher power or foundation (after of course some time and grieving) and believe that “There will be an answer,” we can again (when we are ready, willing, and able) to: “Let it be.”

Let it be, let it be
Ah let it be, yeah let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be
And when the night is cloudy
There is still a light that shines on me
Shine on until tomorrow, let it be
I wake up to the sound of music,
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
Yeah let it be, let it be
Let it be, yeah let it be
Oh there will be an answer, let it be
Let it be, let it be
Let it be, yeah let it be
Oh there will be an answer, let it be
Let it be, let it be
Ah let it be, yeah let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be” 
                                                                     -The Beatles

Letting ‘it’ [or things] BE starts to sound like a mantra of some sort; a way of life; a philosophy in this inspiring song. Even when we are down, “And when the night is cloudy,” we can still have hope and faith that things may look different tomorrow and the sun will shine again. Waiting for that answer can of course get frustrating, daunting, and exasperating at times…

However, practicing patience, and of course self-care techniques such as mindfulness– the practice of being in the present moment, having emotional and body awareness, and deep breathing– taking care of our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual needs becomes a little less intimidating. All of this and of course prayer, meditation, or some form of giving back to others (something outside of ourselves)  is part of spiritual nourishment that is a PRACTICE and takes training (not trying).

However, it is extremely difficult, if not impossible, to Let It Be If you are struggling with your own self-care and not practicing healthy, adaptive emotional regulation (coping) skills such as mindfulness (being present). Being differentiated (non-anxious presence in an anxious environment) and obtaining equanimity requires not only patience and practice, but intentionality.

Mindfulness and meditation seems to fit in each of the four self-care categories. [Don’t forget that mindfulness and/or meditation doesn’t have to LOOK a certain way; you don’t have to be in “yoga pose” on the floor in a room with incense. You can make it your own; as long as you remain curious and non-judgmental.] Try not to judge yourself as you practice it or it takes away from the whole point.] You must be intentional every day to fit in anywhere between a few minutes to an hour of mindfulness and/or meditation into your self-care. The results and difference will astound you.

Each one of these four facets (Physical, Emotional, Mental, and Spiritual) overlaps and affects the other, so if you are lacking in one, it may affect all of your other areas in your self-care practice, overall. You must fill up your own cup in order to be able to cope with life’s stressors and pour into others’ cups.

If you are nourishing yourself enough in all of these facets of self-care, it is much easier to cope with life’s overwhelming and sometimes baffling experiences: and be at peace and content…

 

….AND, of course: Let It Be.

 

 

Now I would love to hear from you. 

What do you think of this breakdown of Let It Be? What do you think the overarching messages are? Is there anything else you would add? What does “Let It Be” mean to you? How do you “Let It Be” in your own life? Let me know in the comments below.

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Sending love and healing,

Dani

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